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Friends

Posted on May 1st, 2007 by Lance Giroux : Ronin Lance Giroux
Who are your friends? Do you know? Who lives under your roof or works at your place of business or in your town … and roots for you? Really? Who knows you well enough to listen to your faults, and has room to understand because maybe similar faults reside within their own organization or mind-body system? In other words … they really understand? Who stands with and accepts you as just you are? Without judgment? Who sees the powerful person you have it within yourself to be? Who encourages you to step beyond your self-imposed limitations into your constructive potential? Who doesn’t rush you in your decision-making processes for the sake of some fad or for the sake of pressing you to develop a sense of urgency? Who encourages you to take basic and fundamental one-day-at-a-time steps? Who makes room for your failures and rejoices in your wins? And who, if they were asked today, would say that they count you among those who will do the above same things for them? This morning I decided to walk to Petaluma’s Apple Box restaurant, sit and write this month’s newsletter. It’s a sunny day, the river’s high, a slight northwest breeze is blowing – perfect springtime weather in northern California’s wine country. Lots of stuff has been happening that could be the grist for this month’s article. A few days ago Lisa Ludwigsen, Founder of The School Garden Company and I provided a unique team building program for the Petaluma branch of Frank Howard Allen Realtors. We’re still riding the buzz from that because it was such a success for the organization. You know … the kind of success when a client’s discovery exceeds their own expectations and they want you to come back to work with them again. Additionally, the previous six weeks have provided abundant experiences– four extensive trips supporting: Krakowskie Stowarzyszenie Aikido in Krakow, Poland Top Human Technologies Ltd in Shenzhen and Shanghai, China the University of Nevada undergraduate L.E.A.D. program in Las Vegas; DeSai Learning in Hartford, Connecticut. Plus Allied Ronin hosted a special team effectiveness program for the Federated Indians of Graton Rancheria here in northern California. On top of it all, a bundle of recently uncovered source material arrived for study and application including: George Leonard’s The Warrior (Esquire 1986) and Don Levin’s The Liberal Arts and the Martial Arts (Association of American Colleges, 1984) and Somatic Elements In Social Conflict (Blackwell Publishing/The Sociological Review, 2007). So the walk to Petaluma’s Apple Box was awash with thought: what to draw from and how to organize it. I mapped out my plan, settled into it, ordered tea, turned on the computer, and got serious about what to write. Then … things changed. While I sat gazing out the window, tea in hand, laptop buzzing, and preparing to write, I was unaware that Peter Welker, friend and world-class musician was sneaking up behind me – until his tap hit my shoulder and his familiar greeting sounded in my ears, “Hey man, can I buy you a pastry?” There is no need to go through the details of our discussion. It is all far too personal to write about at this time, though we spent a good half hour catching up on the past few months of life. Our relationship goes back ten years to the evening when he (a strange face stepping out of a local bookstore) stopped me on the street, introduced himself and said he would be attending a Samurai Game® that I was scheduled to facilitate. I had no idea then who he was nor the caliber of artists he associated with. I had no idea regarding the challenges he was facing or what was going on in his life; and he had no idea regarding similar things about me. But this I will say … his life is much different today – it’s richer, fuller and more alive with bigger and better challenges. And so is mine. I’d like to believe that the event I facilitated helped his life. He’s told me many times it has. But he’s a gracious guy and who knows, maybe he’s just being nice. I do know this though … the times I’ve spent with him over the past ten years has truly helped me – whether it’s been chatting about kids and relationships, or playing chess together or just talking about life’s idiosyncrasies Peter Welker has made a positive difference in my life. So I said, “Sure, I’ll take a poppy-seed muffin.” Near the end of our talk today, Peter tells me, “Hey man, check this out. I’ve invited Fred Lipsius to play with me June 8th and he’s going to be staying at my place. We’re going to turn the town, maybe the county, upside down with people” I looked at him puzzled. “You don’t know who Fred Lipsius is!,” he laughs … and then pulls a flyer off The Apple Box counter and hands it to me. “Look here … Fred Lipsius … multi Grammy Award winner … former leader of Blood, Sweat and Tears. He wrote the huge hit Spinning Wheel.” I had to grin BIG. First, because the song Spinning Wheel has always been one of my favorites. Second, because I didn’t know until that moment who wrote it or who Fred Lipsius was/is. And third, because Welker – at this stage in his life with all of the challenges of his past - continues to grow and expand and live his dream and play his horn and make thousands of people happy. When we wrapped up our conversation and he got ready to leave for an appointment, he said, “Hey man, I gotta tell you something else … I’m getting married!” My BIG grin spread completely across my face. Then he added … “You know what else … you’re doing some great things in the world and I’m rooting for you.” I couldn’t say much to that, it was as unexpected as the touch on my shoulder a half hour earlier. But I felt I had to write about it. True friends. They make all the difference in our world. They show up when least expected, and they don’t quit on you. Who are yours? Do you know? Who roots for you in the quiet moments? Really?
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The Game IS Preparation and Practice

Posted on Feb 23rd, 2007 by Lance Giroux : Ronin Lance Giroux

It's a Monday morning. Gray, drizzly and wet here in Petaluma, California. A parade of kids, moms and dads are making their morning march - umbrellas bobbing like so many flowers down Walnut Street past my front office bay window to Saint Vincent's School just down the street. They (the umbrellas) relate the fact that, yes it is winter. Yet they herald news that Spring is just around the corner ... and like buds and blossoms beginning to appear on the trees the umbrellas bring their cheery hues - yellows, reds, purples. Life goes on. People are learning. Things are changing.

This week is a prep week, as many weeks are. But this one is bigger than usual. Thursday, February 15th, is departure day for College Station, Texas where, on Friday and Saturday, will be the second annual delivery of a leadership program for the Texas A&M University Fellow. My host will be Fellow's Director, Dr. Tim Peterson. Readers of past Allied Ronin newsletters will recall that he and I presented at the Gallup Leadership Institute Summit a few months ago. Tim brought me and Samurai Game® to Oklahoma State University (where he was a faculty member three years ago) after participating in the Game at the Organizational Behavior Teachers Conference. He left OK State in 2005 for bigger challenges at Texas A&M. I've been kidding him that if he's not careful somebody will draft him to join Robert Gates (past President of TAMU) at the Department of Defense. Tim just cringes and says, "No way!". Anyhow ... we will co-facilitate the Game for about fifty (50) TAMU Fellows this coming weekend.

Sunday I depart TAMU for Kansas City, MO, and meetings with my client and friend George Hersh, CEO of GMJ and owner of the Sports Associated Companies. Sports Associated exclusively handles all North American expositions of motorcycles and small watercraft for Suzuki, Yamaha and Ducati. George is the individual most responsible for the creation of the Allied Ronin Leadership Retreat. The next Leader's Retreat will be July 14-18.

Monday will depart Kansas City and head east through Chicago and London to arrive in Cairo, Egypt on February 21. There I'll attend the AIESEC International President's Meeting (IPM). The IPM is a 10-day long event. My involvement will be the delivery of a full day leadership program which will include the Samurai Game® for approximately eighty (80) newly elected AIESEC Country Presidents.

AIESEC, the world's largest student organization, is the international platform for young people to discover and develop their potential so as to have a positive impact on society. In addition to providing over 5,000 leadership positions and delivering over 350 conferences to a membership of over 22,000 students, AIESEC also runs an exchange program that enables over 4,000 students and recent graduates the opportunity to live and work in countries other than their own. February 2006 was my first involvement with AIESEC when I traveled to the Netherlands to present the Game. As a result I toured Poland, Hungary and Slovakia in November delivering the Game for hundreds of "AIESECers" in their own countries.

So this is a prep week ... and a big one. It, along with the moms and dads and kids and umbrellas, got me thinking this morning about how just important preparation really is. When I was a kid I participated in Boy Scouts. We had a motto then; it was "Be Prepared." Years later I met Jack Cirie, a highly decorated combat veteran and former lieutenant colonel, in a brief encounter that changed the direction of my life. I recall his voice admonishing me and others to - Stay Alert! - a motto frequently echoed these days by George Leonard, president emeritus of Esalen Institute, and author of a dozen books.  My friend, Richard Strozzi-Heckler similarly reminds me of this as we part company especially when I am about to travel internationally. With him it's, "Watch your six o'clock". Maybe you'd have to have served in the military or on a police force to understand the importance of that one.

Here's what's on my mind. I'm going off in a few days to facilitate a Game, a leadership simulation. One hundred thirty people on two continents will participate in these Games. They will represent almost 100 nations from around the globe. During the fourteen days that follow my involvement, those 130 individuals will directly impact the lives of and bring their learning to over 15,000 people. By day 28 following my involvement the energy of those fifteen thousand will then ripple out to touch over 1.5 million people. Sound like a bit of an exaggeration? Not really. This is a realistic, calculated, statistically sound and even conservative estimate. So given this, how important should my preparation be? With what kind of attitude should I live the next few days knowing what the potential impact could be?

One of the bigger lessons that I try to impart with college level students ... and this is who I'll mostly interface with over the next two weeks ... is that any game (football, basketball, soccer, etc.) does not just occur on the playing field between the referee's beginning and ending whistles. A track and field athlete's race does not just occur between the moment the starter's pistol fires and the instant the runner hits the tape. The Tour d'France does not just occur for only a few weeks in France ... just ask Lance Armstrong. Attaining a certain level in a martial art - especially for black belt - does not happen on the night of the test. It happens during warm up, it happens when one is training with partners you really <em>don't</em> like, and it happens when you leave the dojo and walk out on the street or into your home and live the lessons of the art that remain in your muscle memory. The "real game" is what happens off the court, off the field, off the track, off the mat ... away from the stadium ... as one prepares. The Master's Tournament does NOT happen in Augusta, Georgia! That's where it <em>ends</em>. The Master's Tournament happens every time the golfer takes a swing ... <em>and every time the golfer thinks about taking a swing</em>. Good leaders understand this concept.

A good executive knows that the most important part of any negotiation happens long before she or he arrives in a conference room for the "important meeting." A good attorney knows that the trial will probably be won or lost long before the courtroom bailiff proclaims, "All Rise!" A good pilot knows his or her safety can depend on the important, yet mundane practice of frequent <em>touch &amp; go</em> landings. A good soldier or police officer knows that how she or he is being with squad mates and potential squad mates during off hours can dramatically shape reality under fire. How he or she is <em>being</em> in the classroom or off duty, can be a matter of life or death later, not only for themselves but for members of the public they sworn to serve.

The "real game" is what happens during practice and preparation.

What's your practice? What do you put into your preparation?

When it comes to your attitude, when it comes to people and how you treat them, when it comes to your family, when it comes to your profession, when it comes to your mission, and ...

When you think that no one is watching you ...

What's your game?

©2007, Lance Giroux

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A Reflective Reminder

Posted on Jan 13th, 2007 by Lance Giroux : Ronin Lance Giroux
OZ never did give nothing to the Tin Man
That he didn't, didn't already have
. - America

It's oddly sunny this morning in what has been an otherwise rainy December. I'm looking out my office window in Petaluma CA. 2006 is about to run out the door. 2007 is walking in. A year beyond what I imagined at the last winter solstice is almost complete. What happened? A lot.

Sometimes I get caught up in the swirl of life and need to take time to remind myself what my journey is all about. That happened this year. This can be a good and necessary thing. Without the swirl we might forget that life takes effort and time and questions and answers. This is fundamentally important. When I notice that I'm getting caught up in the swirl I often engage in conversation with good people and I learn.

Earlier this year Richard Strozzi-Heckler and I were discussing a mutual friend who we were concerned about. Our conversation drifted into thoughts of living one's last days - a very samurai kind of dialogue. I offered that I would like to live my last breath learning something totally new and yet to be appreciated. Today I'm realizing that shortly I'll draw and yield my last breath of 2006 and begin breathing my 2007. As I do I'll ask: What did I learn; what will I discover?

The past year has provided a deep appreciation for an important practice that began in January1975 for me, and then sharpened dramatically in January 1997. The practice of Being Here Now.

Being Here Now may sound too simplistic and esoteric to some folks to warrant serious consideration in the domain of leadership and organizational development, and completely "woo-woo" to others. But the greatest teachers and leaders of the past viewed it as essential, e.g. Marcus Aurelius, "all that is needed is in your way of thinking." Simple it may be. Easy it is not. Indeed, living in the present moment - physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually - is one of the most difficult and rewarding tasks one can engage in. It transcends action; it is about being-ness. The sages say that this is the key to understanding love, forgiveness and compassion. History's greatest generals and warriors knew it to be their greatest ally and grounding point when faced with chaos, crisis and fear ... and even victory. George Patton supposedly once said, "All victory is fleeting!"

I'm of the opinion that all practices, disciplines, undertakings, missions, abilities, etc. hinge on this single idea. It is the major discipline encouraged by the Allied Ronin offerings, and core to the Allied Ronin mission: Develop strong leaders, teams and organizations who perform through principled and constructive practices. All courses, programs, workshops, retreats, conferences, conversations, consultations and coachings open with Be Here Now as the anchor. It is foundational to the application of the three primary instructional tools employed in all Allied Ronin undertakings: (a) The JoHari Window (Luft &amp;amp; Ingham, 1955); (b) The Five Step Leadership Path (Giroux, 2000); and (c) The Dialogue Process (Isaacs, 1993)

Ten years ago - January 10, 1997 - I fell on some boulders and shattered my hip. My life had been running at a very fast pace... an even faster pace than 2006. That day it was if the universe stopped giving me hints about taking some time to attend to the NOW of my life. Rather, it grabbed me and shook me and threw me on the ground and screamed, "Hey you! Pay Attention! It's time to stop ... to slow down ... and to begin to appreciate something."
Reflecting back on the events of that day I see many immediate lessons - some of them hard to swallow - some I'm still coming to terms with:

• I began to realize that I sometimes live in denial, e.g. I wanted to believe the hip was dislocated, not broken, even though I heard the bone split. (I still deny things)

• I began to understand that sometimes I have to face aloneness, e.g. I was left on a beach by myself unable to get away from the rising tide and the surf while my buddy went to summon police and paramedics. (I still don't like being alone)

• I began to grasp a more poignant appreciation of other human beings accepting them as they are, rather than as I would want them to be, e.g. lying on the sand I was approached and attended to by a homeless man who I initially pre-judged and feared. Yet he appeared on the scene and simply offered me a hand and some conversation. He kept me awake and possibly alive. (I still wish others would be different sometimes)

• I began to surrender my need to control others, and allow them to do things their way as best they could, e.g. the officers, paramedics, and firemen who finally arrived to take care of me did all the work. I went along for an hour-long wild (and painful) ride in a metal basket through waves, over slippery rocks, up the sand and across Santa Cruz CA in an ambulance. (I still try to control occasionally)

• I began to creatively and playfully deal with loss, e.g. I encouraged the ER personnel who had difficulty removing my clothes to "just cut ‘em off" rather than trying to figure out how undress me which would have caused further pain and possible injury. (I still don't like losing now and then)

• I started practicing patience and looking at things from another's perspective, e.g. the surgeon, Dr. Swartz, advised that he and his team would wait until the next day to operate rather than hasten the procedure (which the injury rightfully demanded) even though that to wait through the night would mean hours of severe pain for me. Why did he want to wait? Because he knew that he and his team would do a better job if they could perform in a well-rested state. As a good leader and excellent surgeon he assessed the risks involved, evaluated the situation, gave me his best advice, apologized for the pain, and supplied access to ample amounts of morphine. The next day he and the team did a miraculous job. (I still get impatient and insist on seeing things my way)

The initial eight weeks of recovery from January 10, 1997, opened a new understanding regarding the significance of Being Here Now. Over dinner one night with two friends, Paul and Nancy Nakai, who have been on a similar path of learning, I happened to share my insights. A few days later a book arrived from them for which I am still grateful - "Slowing Down to the Speed of Life: How to Create a More Peaceful, Simpler Life from the Inside Out" by Richard Carlson and Joseph Bailey.

How does this connect with today, sitting here looking out the office window at 501 Prospect Street, Petaluma CA ... with 2006 about to run out the door and 2007 about to walk in? Well, I'm still learning. That's how.

In 2006 I was fortunate to visit some exotic and historic places: Confucius' gardens and grave in the ancient city of Qu Fu, Amsterdam's Dam Square, the Van Gough Museum, the narrow stairs leading into Anne Frank's room where rests her actual diary and loose paper notes, the snow covered mountains in northern Slovakia, Krakow's ancient castle The Wawel, Pope John Paul II's birth place, the dirt streets and brown brick barracks in Osweicim, Poland (Auschwitz), the headwaters of the Wisla River, the Hungarian Parliament and Budapest's Hero Square, and Hong Kong's Star Ferry. I rode the cold damp all-night trains from Warsaw to Katowice to Ustron in Poland, and through Gyor to Komarom station in Hungary and then backtracked for hours by car through Gyor because I didn't study my map ... finally arriving at Hungary's great Lake Balaton. I worked around the globe with a few thousand people, some young, some old, some rich, some poor - Poles, Chinese, Taiwanese, Hungarians, Estonians, Romanians and some from the Ukraine and saw firsthand how their similarities far outweighing their differences.

Without diminishing any of these historic and beautiful places, things and people, I have to say that anyplace can be an exotic, and any moment can be a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
The power of what's most important to me continues to be in the here and the now, right where I live. It's just as beautiful and worth appreciating as the world out there. This doesn't mean that traveling abroad is a thing of my past. On assignment I'm bound for Beijing in January, possibly Cairo in February, and most likely Krakow again in March. But here's the truth for me. The unique beauty of Sonoma County and its rolling oak covered hills, the old timers eating stew at Pete's Henny Penny Restaurant in Petaluma, a particular bench on a local county park hillside, the hawks and ravens riding ridgeline thermals above town of Valley Ford, the unseen insects singing their strange clicking chorus in branches above a driveway, morning coffee and tea at a hometown market, the rose bush that pricks my hand at pruning time after the first winter freeze, the school kids at recess laughing in the playground outside my back yard ... all these are as magnificent or more.

Last night in preparation for the upcoming Allied Ronin Leader's Retreat I watched the Bill Moyers' interviews with Joseph Campbell - The Power of Myth. At one point Campbell, one of the greatest minds of our time, said, "Where we have sought to travel outward we shall come to the center of our own existence. Where we have sought to be alone, we shall be with all the world."

You have a strength, a gift, that is uniquely yours. When you find your strength, your gift, and you make a daily practice of developing it, you grow in your ability to constructively influence others to do likewise. This makes you a leader - even if you are not aware of the influence that you have. The more you practice, the more effective you become as a person of influence. This influence, this kind leadership is foundational, and it has nothing to do with title, rank, level of income, position, authority, age, gender or any combination of letters following your name attesting to formal education. Furthermore, when we as individuals come together and collectively practice developing our constructive strengths we grow in our ability to coordinate. In a very real sense, we dance. And with our dance we become strong as teams and organizations. This is important - this leadership through understanding constructive strength and this team and organizational development through coordinated practice. And it is so simple - though not easy. This is what Allied Ronin is fundamentally dedicated to. Nothing less. Nothing more.

Each of us has at least one core quality worth living, worth practicing, worth developing and worth unleashing. Yes, we all have our shadows, our weaknesses and our dark sides. But that we could focus our own and other people's attention on constructive qualities and strengths rather than on destructive faults and weaknesses, I believe we could re-shape our world for the better. It begins at home. What does this take? A simple commitment to be present with self, with others with our environment, with our community ... every day. It demands nothing short of that we Be Here Now.

The 1970's rock group, America, said it all in one single lyric: "OZ never did give nothing to the Tin Man that he didn't, didn't already have."

Looking forward to seeing you in 2007 - whenever and where ever that may be!

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